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Home » Blog » Anxious to Confident Moments Before Speaking

Anxious to Confident Moments Before Speaking

By julie jacky | 8 Comments

As I walked towards the back of the ballroom of the historic Hotel 340 in downtown St. Paul, Minnesota, I noticed Dara sitting by herself with her hand perched against her forehead and eyes looking down at the white cloth on the large round dining table. She looked to me like she might be feeling sick so I stopped and asked her if she was okay. She told me she was nervous because she was speaking next, on stage at a conference for small business owners that we were both attending.

I asked her if I could help her. She looked up at me with a gleam of hope in her eye, nodded her head up and down, and got up out of her seat to follow me into a quieter space where we could tap without interrupting others listening to the current speaker. In the small adjoining room, we sat down in a couple of chairs that were out of the main walking path so we could have a little more privacy. 

I asked Dara to share with me the thoughts that were going through her head and she articulated some of the common thoughts and feelings many of us have had before standing up to speak in front of the group, no matter the size. 

Common thoughts I have heard people express before speaking include:

  • I might make a mistake and say the wrong thing
  • I don’t want to sound stupid
  • What if I forget what I want to convey to the audience?
  • I am afraid I am going to bore everyone
  • I don’t want to be embarrassed
  • What if my PowerPoint (or other technology) doesn’t work?

I guided Dara through the tapping points and asked her to follow along with me and trust the process.

I led, speaking out loud repeating what she had shared with me, and she echoed me while we each tapped the points on our own bodies. After tapping for just a few minutes her body calmed down inside and she said she was actually excited to take the stage. She realized she wouldn’t forget anything or mess up because she knew the content inside and out. After all, she was passionate and experienced at guiding authors through the process of publishing their books and she would do just fine. She shifted from fear to confidence right before my eyes.

I took my seat between two of my friends who both happened to be named Amy and we listened to Dara share her wisdom and offer tips to a large room full of potential authors. As she was speaking the Amy on my right side leaned over and whispered she’d heard Dara speak several times before and this was by far her best. She was so impressed that when Dara was done speaking she made a beeline over to her table to let her know how awesome she was. 

Here’s the story in Dara’s words:

Before giving a presentation, I was officially allowing nerves to get the best of me–sweaty palms, anxiety, and serious panic. After sitting with Julie for only a few minutes before my presentation, I felt immediate relief. After working with her, I was not only no longer anxious, but excited to take the stage. Never before was I completely relaxed giving a talk in front of a large crowd. After my presentation, several in the audience told me that my presentation was their favorite. One woman said, “I’ve seen you speak before and this was your best.” I have Julie to thank. ~Dara B. Co-founder of Wise Ink

(Three years later, Dara is now my publisher!)

Listen, you don’t have to feel nervous before you go on stage. You can tap and turn that fear into confidence and excitement. You just need to state your fears out loud while tapping and allow the fear in your body to dissipate. 

Be sure to join me in my free Facebook Tapping Community for tap-a-long videos to help you clear out your fear and anxiety of public speaking. 

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  1. Elda says

    September 15, 2019 at 8:04 pm

    What an amazing story of being at the right place at the right time so that you could be there for her and now she’s your publisher! It was all meant to be.

    Kudos to you for noticing that she might need your assistance.

    Reply
    • julie jacky says

      September 16, 2019 at 10:12 am

      Yes! We were at the right place at the right time and funny cool how we are working together again. Thank you, Elda!

      Reply
  2. Wendy says

    September 20, 2019 at 9:50 am

    OOOHHHHHHH – speaking in public. Isn’t that the #1 fear in America? At least I think I’d heard that stat.

    It’s beautiful the way you helped Dara. And now she’s your publisher! The universe is so good.

    Reply
    • julie jacky says

      September 20, 2019 at 10:26 am

      Yes, it’s a top fear. Many people would rather die than speak in public. (Until they tap on it!)

      Yes, the Universe is sooo good. It’s always fun to watch things unfold and to connect the dots backward, too.

      Reply
  3. Michelle Beckman says

    September 24, 2019 at 5:13 pm

    It’s amazing how just a few minutes with the right technique can not only change your presentation around, but also change your business. What a blessing that you found Dara before she spoke!

    Reply
    • julie jacky says

      September 24, 2019 at 6:36 pm

      Right?! It is amazing how a technique can impact us so significantly.

      Reply
  4. Jess says

    October 14, 2019 at 9:55 am

    Wow! What an amazing story. Thanks for sharing!!

    Reply
    • julie jacky says

      October 15, 2019 at 1:47 pm

      Thank you, Jess! I am glad you enjoyed it. 🙂

      Reply

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